A woman that I was working with said she “abandoned” herself when she was seeking love (in all the wrong places) by having sex with many partners, which led to her sexual addiction. Her actions created recklessness and thoughtlessness for her own self-regard.
This word “abandon” peeked my interest, as I had never heard of this word used in this context before. It made me ponder how many times I had abandoned myself by doing things that were not healthy for my soul. I hurt myself through people pleasing, ingesting foods that were harmful, or just simply choosing to ignore my intuition.
How have you abandoned yourself? Have you said “yes” when you meant “no”? Have you lived off junk food, or got sucked into the TV for hours on end neglecting the chores at hand? What about creating drama, so that the focus is off you and onto the others around you so you can deny what is really going on.
One of my spiritual advisor’s says that, “obsession is denial”. When we are so focused on something outside of ourselves, we are denying or “abandoning” ourselves.
How do you have disregard for your true self? Being reckless and uninhibited can have disastrous consequences.
Here is a list on how to honor your own soul:
My client eventually quit “abandoning” herself and started to learn self-love instead of getting love through approval seeking behaviors. If she can do it, you can too. Say “yes” to occupying your own soul and “no” to outside obsessions like money, sex, accolades, recognition, and prestige. Soul substance can not be bought, but it can be taught.
I would love to hear how you “abandon” yourself, and how you can remedy the problem. Email me privately at firstname.lastname@example.org or post your solutions below. I look forward to hearing from you. Namaste
Registered Yoga Instructor Certified Life Coach