The number one challenge my clients face... is stress. They seem to be in flight or fight most days and catching their breath seems insurmountable.
One of the other characteristics which permeates through my clientele is the word “try”.
This word is not one of my favorites. It equates struggle and ambiguity about finishing a task. When this weak word is used, 99% of the time my clients do not finish what they set out to do.
Doesn’t it sound better to say you are going to “do” something as opposed to “try” something?
Let’s replace “try” with a more powerful word. The word is “let”. “Letting” as opposed to “trying” infers you are allowing something bigger to come in. “Trying” is tied to our egos of pushing, shoving and forcing. “Letting” allows a dance between you and the higher forces at work to co-create with you. Just think of the famous saying, “Let go and let God.”
So when you feel as if you have to push up against strong current or diagnosis or challenge, do what surfers do when they are getting tossed around by the waves: Soften, relax and surrender. If you panic, it could compromise your life. Relax like a cork bobbing on the surface of the ocean.
De-stress and dissipate by letting, allowing, surrendering and softening. Give up trying, contracting, pushing and forcing. Life is too short to run chronically on the stress hormones we all know too well. As the Beatles sang, “Let it be”. After all, we are all human BEINGS not human doings.
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Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.” -Gandhi
A few months before election day I told my husband that Trump was probably going to win. Every time I turned on the television, the news was reporting another episode of Trump sticking his foot in his mouth and gnawing on it for the umpteenth time.
I have been a “Law of Attraction” life coach for over 15 years and it has been proven time and time again that what my clients focus on grows bigger. When my clients worry about not having enough money, not enough money keeps showing up in their lives. When my clients worry about being alone for the rest of their lives, they are still alone, unless they change their thoughts and, of course, their actions around the issue.
So when I saw my friends and colleagues afraid Donald Trump may become the president of the United States, I knew the power of thoughts. What we fear and feed, magnifies!
When I turned on the news I rarely heard about Hillary. It seemed Trump was getting all the press and attention.
This can be compared to the fight with cancer or the fight with drugs. These issues get tons of attention in the press and news, but they have gotten worse over the decades, not better.
Keep focusing on what you don’t want and what you don’t want keeps getting louder and louder and louder. Remember, whatever we resist persists.
Commit to focusing on what you are FOR, rather than what you are against. Vote FOR your own well being and empower yourself by staying informed. Take 100% responsibility for your own feelings without blaming candidates for your potentially derailed emotions.
Know that what you push against pushes back even stronger. America experienced that in this election. The push was infused with fear rather than faith. Our election was riddled with anxiety about these two nominees and our country has been, off the charts, divisive. It is probably leftover residue from the memories of the Bush administration and the economic crisis that Obama dug us out of.
From now on, I vote FOR faith that there is something higher at work. I choose to magnify the wellbeing of our future elections with positive thoughts and beliefs. Next time the squeaky wheel will not get the grease, because I will just turn off the television.
After mastering your thoughts with “The Gentle Mental Diet” (in the previous blog) it is now time to infuse your impeccable thoughts with your joyful emotions in “The Playful Emotional Diet”.
THE PLAYFUL EMOTIONAL DIET:
For seven days you will carry on your regular duties and responsibilities, but with a joyful attitude. If you want to pretend you are just interning or it is your first day on the job, that will create a beginner’s mind. You can also pretend you are a writer for Newsweek or Time magazine and are writing an amusing and feel-good article about the day and life of you. That way you have a breezy view of your world through objective eyes, rather than your stale subjective view. You can even pretend that you just moved to your neighborhood and are looking around from a vacationer’s perspective. You can even take this same perspective with your family and relatives. Imagine you are a journalist writing a lighthearted article on the life and times of your family, children, spouse or close friends. Humor is encouraged.
In your free time give yourself permission to do more self-care activities that include:
*hikes, golf, tennis, yoga, beach
*reading for pleasure
*taking yourself out to your favorite restaurant
*dancing to your favorite music
*movies (comedy is encouraged)
*buying / wearing a nice piece of clothing that makes you feel fabulous
*calling a friend that you haven’t talked to in awhile
*planning a trip or even taking a trip during your emotional diet would be awesome.
*buying yourself flowers
Please refrain from anything that will create an emotional or physical hangover such as drinking/ overeating or spending too much money.
While on your emotional diet you will practice moving up the emotional scale as shown in Dr. David Hawkins emotional scale chart (see above). Use your own inner guidance to ask yourself what will feel happy in every moment. Follow your bliss throughout the seven days and then write down on a piece of paper, at the end of each day, all the wonderful actions you took in order to stay above the fray.
When you take this emotional diet and learn to follow your own joy and exhilaration (not someone else’s). Watch your life be in sync with your heart’s desires. As you learn to do this seven-day emotional diet, it is encouraged you become a master of this diet. Let it lead you into blissful mastery for the rest of your life. After all, it is YOUR life, not your boss’s, spouses, parents or friends. Take a stand for self-care and watch your life start to look and feel like YOU. Watch everything around you thrive because you have chosen joy to be your teacher instead of suffering.
P.S. If you are taking the “F*CKED UP TO FIXED UP” workshop you will also continue to wear your band from you gentle mental diet and snap your band whenever you get derailed from your emotional diet. When you snap your band please replace the negative feeling with a positive thought and notice how quickly you will get back on track!
Registered Yoga Instructor Certified Life Coach