“Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission.”
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
Students in my “F*cked Up to Fixed Up” workshops are given an elastic band to wear around their wrist for a week. They have to snap it whenever they have a negative thought. Every time. A negative thought is any thought that consists of judgement, gossip, self-deprecation, resentment, fear, complaining or you get the idea.
I encourage you to take this life-transforming “Mental Diet” that was taught to me years ago by one of the forefathers of the new thought movement, Emmett Fox. After my students snap the elastic on their wrist they gently remind themselves they are breaking the habit of negative thinking, and replace the thought with some of Louise Hay and my own affirmations;
-It is safe to be me.
-I communicate with ease and joy.
-My mind is gentle and harmonious.
-I love and approve of myself.
-All is well right in this moment, right here, right now.
-The Universe has my back.
-Everything happens for my highest good.
-I am a magnet for positivity.
-I am gentle with myself.
-I am doing the best I can right now.
-I live in the present moment joyous and free.
-I am grateful for this lesson.
-I am getting better everyday in many ways.
-Life loves me.
-I am surrounded by wonderful people in my life.
-This is just a moment in time through my journey.
-I bring peace to every aspect of my life.
-Life just gets better and better and better.
-Everything is eternal and everlasting.
Bringing subconscious habitual thoughts to your conscious awareness can be shocking at first. In doing so most people have an epiphany over just how many negative thoughts they have in just one day. Research shows people have 60,000-70,000 thoughts EVERY DAY and many have the SAME thoughts (approximately 90%) the next day and the next and the next. The same thoughts and patterns over and over and over again.
That’s a habit we all need to break if those thoughts are working against us and not FOR us. Moving from familiar thoughts to new thoughts will change your life forever. Those new thoughts will create new feelings, new choices, new behaviors and new results.
By taking part in this gentle mental diet your world will start to rock-and-roll, almost like an earthquake but in a good way. Hold on and breathe through it and when your world stops rocking you will become a vibrational match to your new way of thinking. People will ask you what you’ve been doing because they’ll notice the big change in you, which will emanate out into your surroundings.
So, if you’re happy already, no need for this diet. But if you’re carrying around a little too much baggage, put that rubber band on your wrist and start snapping. One week. For YOUR life.
Have you ever walked up to a buffet and put everything on your plate that you DON'T like? Foods that make you sick, gag or even throw-up? Of course not, right?
Why then, in our daily lives, do we stick putrid, expired and moldy thoughts in our minds and then gnaw on them or even savor them for hours, months or even years?
Our thoughts are powerful. They spill over into our feelings, behaviors, choices and our experiences.
It's time to take your executive power back over what you think, right now!
For the past 15 years, in my living room, I've had a carefully-placed index card I see every day. It's message is simple: “The only thing you have to deal with are your thoughts." I know if I align my thoughts, the rest of my life will go smoothly. I know if I'm listening to my own little itty bitty shitty committee, it's time to erase the negative thoughts with powerful, positive affirmations.
I love what my friend Jahna says, “We may be powerless over our first thought, but not our second. Or third."
Take your power back and become conscious of what you dish up on your mental plate. The universe is a buffet of possibilities, but we must choose what to eat. Your choices will literally serve as a vibrational match to your thoughts, so feast and choose wisely.
I believe Dr. Joe Dispenza when he says “We have to change our personality in order to create a new personal reality”. We DO have to become someone new in order to change.
How do we become someone new if we’re dissatisfied with our present self? First we have to move from a Newtonian model of reality that says the outer world shapes our inner world, to a Quantum model which states our inner world reflects our outer world. Our thoughts, feelings, behaviors and choices DO reflect our health, finances and relationships, and ultimately, who we are.
Personally, I was a victim of my circumstances. Widowed at 30 years old with a son who was diagnosed with a condition no one could seem to cure, I bathed in self-pity. Out of desperation I jumped from the Newtonian model to the Quantum model of reality and took 100% responsibility for my own situation. I decided to become a victor rather than a victim. I threw away the rearview mirror and thanked the Universe for all its gifts. I jumped from my old self to my new self, determined to live in a state of love and gratitude. I cast away self-pity. I blessed everything and everyone. Not only did my personality change but my personal reality changed and my new life no longer resembled my old life.
If you really want to change, can you get up every morning and choose to become the greatest version of you? Can you choose to stay in love with yourself and others? Can you contribute to the world without keeping score? Yes, you can. And once you set yourself on a course to become the very best person you can be, you’ll be amazed at how much more fulfilling your life becomes, not only in your own heart, but in the hearts and minds of everyone around you.
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Registered Yoga Instructor Certified Life Coach