A reader of mine asked why most of my blogs have little to do with yoga and more about life coaching. After all, I have taught yoga for over two decades and I have only been life coaching for about ten years.
Writing about yoga for me is like writing about walking, breathing, or even eating. My practice has become an integral part of my life and I do it as religiously as I brush my teeth.
Yoga for me reflects the foundation upon which I’ve built my symbolic home. Yoga grounds me to my figurative first floor and it is the kitchen which feeds my soul. It’s also my living room where I meditate and truly relax on my mental couch. Yoga echoes throughout the basement, which I go down to in times of personal tornado warnings. It’s where I collect my personal canned goods in case of an unseen storm.
On the other hand, life coaching, creative visualization, the law of attraction, and self-hypnosis are on the second, third floors and even the attic of my home. When using these life-altering techniques, my views out my window get more expansive and I have more light flooding in. My vistas of the sky, clouds, trees, and lawn open up so much more than on the first floor. When I’m upstairs I symbolically play more. Upstairs is all about my Legos and Hula Hoops.
Eighty to 90 percent of what shows up in our lives is from our subconscious mind. The only way to change engrained patterns is through imagination, visualization and affirmation. So to stop the loop of of insanity (samsara) of doing the same thing over and over again, I prefer to blog, teach and explore the upper floors of consciousness. I find liberation using these techniques and share them with not just yogis, but everyone, no matter their path.
Don’t get me wrong. Without the ground floors of yoga, meditation and pranayama, my upper floors are harder to access. Yes, we all need a foundation of physical, mental and spiritual practice. No home and no one can exist without a solid base. There are no shortcuts.
So why do I blog more about life coaching? Because yoga is already an established part of my life. Whereas, coaching breaks down the subconscious patterns quickly while playing with my metaphorical Play-Doh in my attic. Come play with me, and together we’ll experience just how delicious the imagination can be when using it to change our lives.
To find out more about how to spend time in the attic, come play with me at my “F**KED UP TO FIXED UP” workshops once a month in West Los Angeles. You can contact me via email or fine us on meetup.com. Namaste.
Have you ever been so hungry that when you finally sat down to eat, you ate so much you could barely move? Is someone in your neighborhood building a “McMansion” too big for the lot it sits on? And have you ever seen a woman who obviously had a little too much “enhancement” up top, and thought, “She probably went a little too far?” In other words, how much is enough? How much is too much? And is bigger necessarily better?
How we answer those questions can play a big part in our overall happiness. Do we have to be busting out of our seams in order to feel fulfilled in a culture that’s increasingly obsessed with me, me, me and more, more, more?
What if we reject the consumeristic push to buy more clothes, bigger homes and super-sized meals? If you buy into this trap of bigger is better, you may find you will only have bigger problems.
How about a mindset of simplicity? What about a small business model? What about a small delicious gourmet meal? What about downsizing from that Mc Mansion to something with perhaps less upkeep that accommodates a simple, beautiful yard or a garden.
A Princeton study found that emotional well-being did increase with income, but not much above $75,000.00 a year. So why is our society consumed with the idea the more money we make and the more things we buy, the happier we will become? It simply is a lie and a consumer trap.
Wouldn’t it be nice if your company focused on personal care with customers, and truly had authentic concern with helping people solve their problem or concern with their service or product? What if your company organically grew instead of putting it on steroids and watching it crash and burn as quickly as it was built.
Focus on what you do well and do that better, not bigger.
Beyond the American obsession of fancy cars, status and big money, we all know that love and peace trump all of these objects. I dare you to rebel against this crazy consciousness and instead love deeper, live simpler and go deeper (inside), not bigger. Quality not quantity, or as the late Wayne Dyer said so succinctly, “Seek serenity, instead of acquisitions”.
Thanks for taking time out of your busy day to read my blog and please share if you like. Namaste.
A few nights ago, we had World War III in our home between my husband and my son and it went on way past midnight. Screaming, yelling, you name it. If you've ever watched “Jerry Springer”, you get the idea. Yeah, it was that bad.
It was only after I intervened, in my peace-making, yogic kind of way, did they stop barking too loud, too late and too long!
If you're having a Jerry Springer moment of your own, here are some tips to calm everyone down:
Fighting is poisonous. It's toxic. It can and will hurt you physically and emotionally. If you're fighting, get some therapy or more tools to clean that deadly energy out of your mouth, mind and home. Life is too short to have venom pouring out towards one another. Especially between the ones we love.
Thank God the blow ups in our home are rare and always forgiven. That was not the case when I was growing up. Some of my brothers and sisters hated our stepdad. They would would do things like melt ex-lax and mix it in with the hot fudge on his ice cream. The little pranks seem innocent enough, but they were the result of much deeper pain. And we all know hurt people, hurt people. And sometimes those deeper wounds bleed. So when they do, remember that fighting and disagreements are part of life, especially when raising children. But we can choose to be emotionally mature and become the peace we seek in the world.
Those who know me well know my religion is kindness. I would rather be kind, than right. There's enough fighting in the world and we certainly don’t need more of it in our homes. Be the bigger person and choose to move away from negativity and towards love in every situation.
Always, always remember: If you seek peace, you will find it. And no one will put Ex-lax on your sundaes.
Thank you for reading and please share if you like. Namaste.
Registered Yoga Instructor Certified Life Coach