Are you longing for that special someone? How about the career of your dreams? What about that dream home or vacation? Is it luck? I think not.
If you are desperate for things to change on the outside, the best solution is to dig deep on the inside.
When you desperately jump from one doctor to the other, one job to the other or one dating site to another, it’s time to stop. Know that when you are seeking to change your status in a frantic way, being needy is creepy and downright repulsive to others.
Here are some actions to take when you find yourself frenzied for things to change:
1. Find a hobby that brings you immense joy and distracts you temporarily from focusing on what is bothering you.
2. When you find yourself thinking thoughts of lack, change your thoughts to focusing on your abundance. Affirm that you live in an already abundant universe.
3. Three minutes a day, meditate and mentally rehearse what you would like to show up in your life, as if it has already manifested. Imagine you are healed, in love or feeling the financial windfall in the present moment. Preferably done with eyes closed.
Remember when you come from a place of lack or neediness it is creepy and gross. Have you ever dated a needy person or heard a pitch from a sleazy salesman ? When you are around these people there is a smell similar to rancid milk.
Take note, if you are chasing anyone or anything, it runs away. Have you ever chased a dog, cat, child, money or accolades? They run away the more desperate you become.
Success is not luck. Success is living your own life, following your own bliss and not caring what others think about you. Living with equanimity and peace regardless of money, no money, health, no health, relationship, no relationship is the secret to harmony. Life is a series of ups and downs and the Buddhists were right when they said impermanence is a part of life. Everything has a beginning and an end.
So quit chasing or being needy and get busy doing what brings you happiness and feeds your own soul, without conditions, NOW.
Last week in my life coaching workshop one of my students wanted to dive into his feelings. Feelings are wonderful because they tell you whether you’re heading in the right or wrong direction. If you’re feeling good or bad, feelings are an indicator, just like the one on your car dashboard telling you if your tank is full or empty and what action to take, if any?
Life coaching is not therapy. We don’t get into emotions, because as Dr. Joe Dispenza says, feelings are just a record of the past. The LAST thing we want to do is keep repeating the same thoughts, feelings, choices and behaviors when attempting to create a new future. Life coaching IS about finding and knowing where you are and then determining where you want to go.
Positive growth comes when we change familiar thoughts and feelings into new thoughts, feelings and choices to create a new future. In other words, if you keep focusing on where you are, you’ll stay there. In my life coaching classes we delve into the subconscious mind and imagine what it would be like to FEEL equanimity and peace regardless of what is happening on the outside. And the reason we want to create a new job, relationship, home or healing is because we want to be happy.
If you are happy FIRST, through the law of attraction, you will pull good into your life FASTER than you can imagine. Remember my mantra: Good thoughts and feelings equal great results. Bad thoughts and feeling create bad results. So why would anyone want to dive back into the past and dig up those old skeletons. Remember the bible saying, “Let the dead bury the dead”.
Life is for the living.
In life coaching we plant new seeds for a new way of living. We learn to rise above bad habits and negative thoughts and learn new habits of thoughts, feeling, choices and behaviors to make a VISION bigger than the habitual thoughts and feelings of the past.
To create a new YOU, sign up for my F*CKED UP TO FIXED UP” workshop class today and rise above your conditions!
Registered Yoga Instructor Certified Life Coach