Is your mind like a roller coaster ride or like branches on a stormy windy day? If the answer is yes, how about maintaining some internal coherence?
The secret to achieve congruence is from the inside out, rather than the outside in. To master this internal consistency within yourself make sure you control your thoughts, rather than your thoughts controlling you.
This is easier said than done. How can we achieve and master this coherence when we may be struggling with health issues, lawsuits, single parenting and chronic emotional or physical pain?
Make sure you fill up your own tank first! Remember the flight attendant always reminds you to put the oxygen mask on yourself before assisting others. Fill yourself spiritually, mentally, physically and emotionally through taking time out for you. Here are some essential examples:
You come first. You cannot give from an empty tank.
I gave and gave from an empty tank for years and it just creates resentment. There is nothing worse than running on fumes!
Fill yourself up first and give from a full tank and that is the key to living with internal coherence. You will no longer have the ups and downs of the emotional roller coaster or feel as if you're the branch that is about to snap. You will have mastered your thoughts by running on the best fuel known to mankind; self-care.
This morning I was talking to my spiritual advisor about some obsessive fearful thoughts that were having their way with me between my ears!
My advisor mentioned that once we grab onto a negative thought, it starts out as a guest, then the host, and then the master. I thought that was an incredible description of how the mind can become so fixated on a problem, and magnify into this larger than life master.
Kick the nasty guest out (your initial thought) and then there is no chance it can become the master and take over your words, actions, choices and behaviors. Stop it before it takes root!
How do we get rid of these negative thoughts? Try some of these tools below:
1. Clap your hands together loudly and scream stop.
2. Visualize a huge stop sign in your mind.
3. Grab a pen and a piece of paper and cathartically write down all those fearful thoughts and then rip it up, then write a faith list.
4.Pick up the phone and call a trusted friend and discuss your thoughts.
5.Focus on the moment, the colors, the smells, and the sounds of your environment.
6.Write a gratitude list.
Know that the problem lies in the mind. And the good news is that the solution also lies in the mind. If we change our thoughts, we can change our lives. Easier said than done some days, but with a little practice and awareness you will be on your way.
If I can do, you can too!
It was a sunny Santa Monica afternoon, and I wanted to quickly run into Whole Foods to grab my family something from the buffet, before heading home for the evening.
Next to me was a woman screaming at the man behind the deli counter, “There is no way I am feeding my daughter pesticides and genetically modified foods.” Then she turned to me and said, “Can you believe it?” I gently nodded and went about my business.
The thing of it is, that woman was a mirror of me about a decade ago. I use to go crazy over things that were potentially unhealthy for the body. Here are a few examples;
So as you can see, I was quite finicky in the field of food. Now I have changed my ways. I am much more fun to be with. I am more relaxed and eat almost anything within reason (eggs, fish, yogurt, and cheese).
That woman screaming at the man behind the deli counter was doing more damage to her liver and those around her, than any pesticide could ever do. Bad thoughts and feelings are more detrimental to the body, than any processed junk food.
This is my own personal belief and my own personal experience. But, I do believe that thoughts and feelings, both good and bad impact our health. If I am living on organic healthy foods, but screaming incessantly at people in my life, it is more toxic than living on Oreos and Coca Cola.
I know mood and food are often intertwined, but I think you get my point.
When making food choices it is important to know that a good mood while you're shopping, cooking and eating comes into play. Blessing the food also has a transformative energy.
If you are at Whole Foods screaming at others in the market, you might as well throw a little gasoline on your broccoli or kale. Remember bad moods, being neurotic and judgemental about every little crumb you digest, can create more damage to your insides. Never mind the people around you that have to tolerate your persnickety ways.
Be easy on yourself and drop the controlling, obsessive, neurotic food habits and wear Whole Foods like a loose garment!
If I did, you can! Remember good thoughts equal great results!
Thanks for reading and sharing!
Registered Yoga Instructor Certified Life Coach